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Steps to forgive



Was working on a study for my small group, saw this, and thought I would share...

Twelve Steps to forgiveness

  1. Openly recognize wrong deeds to be wrong deeds
  2. Recognize that your anger is not only normal, but necessary.
  3. Realize how ongoing bitterness will ultimately hurt you.
  4. Learn from your problems by establishing better boundaries
  5. Refuse to be in the inferior position and resist the desire to be superior.
  6. Avoid the futility of judgments, letting God be the ultimate judge.
  7. Allow yourself permission to grieve.
  8. Confront the injuring party if appropriate.
  9. Find emotional freedom as you let go of the illusion of control.
  10. Choose forgiveness because it is part of your life’s mission
  11. Come to terms with others wrong deeds by recognizing your own need for forgiveness.
  12. Become a source of encouragement to other hurting people.


From: The Choosing to Forgive Workbook, by Les Carter, PHD, and Frank Minirth, MD

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